Hurt Cat

I don’t know how many of you saw Oprah yesterday but there was this 25 year old girl on there who had already slept with 89 people. Listen, any person, man or woman, who is making moves like that, unprotected moves, has a problem. And sure enough, this chick went on to talk about her daddy and how she just wanted attention and companionship and the only sure fire way to get it was through sleeping with men. She knew it was a temporary fix.

Then there was a black chick who essentially did the same thing. She’d pick guys up at the gas station or clubs and be home screwing them in an hour. Sure she’d been raped. But did that stop her? Hellous nous!!!

Two things I noticed. When the Black girl walks out of Oprah, her ass is going to be known back home as the sleezy whore who was on Oprah. When the white girl walks out of Oprah, she will go back to her community and likely get sympathy and not be the source of much joking. Messed up but it seems to be a cultural thing. It’s not that women in our community don’t get their freak on, frequently. But I guess there’s an understanding that your business is your business.

Second, I wonder if there is that much truth to the notion that most whorish young woman have daddy issues or were sexualized too early. On the show, the two main girls did mention daddy and family. Are we’re getting to the point that we just use daddy/family issues to justify any reckless behavior we participate in. What do you think? Because if you’re on Oprah, talkin’ ’bout you’re a sex addict but within 15 minutes you have linked your ‘addiction’ to your daddy not loving you, maybe you know exactly what you’re doing. Addicts don’t know what they’re doing. They generally can’t point to the source of their addiction so easily.

Lastly, it’s funny when women screwing every man who snifs in her general direction is the topic, you get to see who is a little uncomfortable with their own tendencies towards such behavior. I guess maybe everyone isn’t willing to see that the behavior they’re participating in is reckless. Nor are they willing to recognize that when we participate in reckless behavior, it’s usually NOT about the thing we’re doing. For example, when we drink excessively in social situations, it’s usually not all about the alcohol. Sometimes it’s done because a person is super self-conscious and the only way s/he can relax is with a foreign substance. The only way a person can forget their hang ups is through being drunk. Further, sometimes it’s genetic. And if we stop for a moment to ask why we’re drinking so much, it’s mighty painful to really acknowledge that you come from a long line of alcoholism.