It Continues So Long As You Let It

Remeber Fran and the Slow Talker (ST)? If not, go back and read. I’ll wait.

You would think it would end there right? Wrong. Life doesn’t work like that. As it would turn out, ST kept calling. Eventually, he chipped away at Fran’s resolve not to ever go out with him. They went out. Nothing special. Drinks and chatting. In this meeting, Fran realized she’d really-really forgotten what he looked like. Can y’all believe he met her months before finally getting her to go out?

Fran won’t say she had a good time–which means she didn’t. But remember how ST said no man would want Fran if she didn’t humble herself. Always up for a challenge, Fran made sure to be ’super’ herself when they went out. Anyhow, the evening went along swell–and I can absolutely use SWELL because I hand out at Target. When it was said and done and they parted ways, Fran smirked and thought, “Well I won’t be hearing from him again.”

Wrong!

I told Fran by allowing him to pick away at her resolve to never go out with him and going out with him, in his mind, he thinks she’s interested. What she needs to do is just tell him she’s not interested. Otherwise, he will keep calling saying things that lead poor Fran to believe he thinks they are officially dating. And that she has some intention of ever going out with him again. One date outting does dating make.

And yes, there’s a moral. Honesty is the key. Persistence is bad. Persistence can wear a person down but what you get is someone who is always a bit shakey about why they are even dating you. We here at The After Party have heard that most people won’t be persistent if they aren’t being encouraged. This is not true. Some people have laser like focus. And no matter how much DIScouragement you give them, they have a goal in mind and s/he won’t be ignored. Honesty! It’s all the rage for 06.

I’ve been here. I’ve fallen victim to the persistent man. Lawd knows. But today, the Hostess that you guys know and love like read wouldn’t fall for it. I recognize it for what it is–someone trying to force their will upon me. Not gonna happen. At the same time, it’s a concept I don’t much understand–especially when you’re getting no encouragement. If I’m trying to get something but I get no encouragement from the holder of what I want, I don’t want it anymore. I know some people would want it more. But not me. Maybe I’m lazy.

I have told Fran that if she can’t come out and tell ST she isn’t interested, she will continue to get called. Is it the attention she likes? No because she usually cuts him off after about two minutes. And, he’s not her only suitor. Can’t she use her caller ID? Fran’s addicted to answering her phone. Am I missing something? He hasn’t paid attention to her lack of interest, the fact she doesn’t call him, nor that she’s never really even bothered to ask him his basic stats.

Y’all like how even though I’m not at home, I cared enough to set this to post in my absence? See y’all in the afternoon-maybe. It’s St. Patty’s Day. And well, I support the Irish in all their four leaf clovery and drunken fun.